How These 3 Ideas Opened My Eyes and Can Change Your Life
You must have a flexible mindset to adapt to the best out there
Ever had those moments when an idea strikes you, making you stop in your tracks and gasp out loud? These are more frequent if you are a student of mathematics (the grand revelation of a formula’s origin!), but they can occur in your day-to-day life too.
Entrenched ideas die hard.
Sometimes, you are so convinced of a belief that when you realise the accuracy of the counter perspective, it’s an Eureka moment.
At these times, I want to shout with joy because of that thought which made my core churn and comprehend how much more there is still to evolve and improve.
Here are three of those lines.
»Being the bigger person doesn’t mean you accept getting bullied. You have to put your foot down.
Since your childhood, people have urged you to be the “bigger person.”
To forgive, even if the world has wronged you to the worst.
To let the anger and hurt go, even though they stand valid.
To be fair, even after being played dirty.
Honour. Justice. Mercy.
For your closest friends and family members, these terms are the very pillars of the relationship and lead to flourishing bonds.
Yet, in other aspects of life, I wonder whether these words look better on paper and in Marvel movies. Life’s beautiful, but it may not have unicorns on every step. As my friend says, it's a rose with thorns to overcome, but the result is worth it.
People can be mean, take advantage of you, and leave you alone.
We have all been told to be the “bigger person” when somebody has wronged us.
Life’s a rose with thorns to overcome, but the result is worth it.
I came across a post which redefined the term.
Being the “bigger person” doesn’t mean you are obliged to get bullied and stomped upon by the meaner groups.
It implies you take a stand for goodness and justice in the world — it means to challenge the wrongness rather than accept it! Being kind to a certain type of people is being unjust towards the other group.
Don’t punch first, but make sure yours is the last.
It implies you take a stand for goodness and justice in the world — it means to challenge the wrongness rather than accept it!
So, be the bigger guy in a new sense.
Don’t let others make a fool of you; don’t let others take credit for your hard work; don’t be prey to puppy eyes.
When you know that it is not fair, do not shut up.
Speak out loud. To get those people peace and relief who deserve it.
You aren't being rude without a reason. It’s you being kind to yourselves and the innocent - a brave and incredible act!
Your heart may race every time you're about to speak up for yourself. This doesn't mean it is wrong… Have grace for yourself, breathe through it, and speak. Your voice deserves to be heard. —Saadia Z. Yunus
»Life’s not supposed to be a relentless struggle
The Hustle Culture has hit the sky.
The way some people preach it isn’t sustainable for a peaceful life. The self-proclaimed gurus tell us to work and work till we reach the Ultimate Success (and what this term entails, we are not sure ourselves).
You hit a goal, and the next one appears on the horizon.
It seems that endless work, a bitter life, and sleepless days lay ahead, but that’s what you get for a “successful life.”
I used to think that not being productive every second of my life was a sin.
Indeed, my friends and acquaintances often admitted that not working all the time put them in deep guilt of wasting their time.
But, in overworking and stress, we should remember our WHY.
We are working towards happiness — we should try to attain it in the present as well.
The past is dead, and the future is a figment of our imagination.
But we should remember our WHY.
Hard work is the way to success. I agree. If I am honest with myself, I still work with this mindset at times to keep me running.
It is good only to an extent.
Resilience is important, yes. We should know how to rebound from hard times.
Struggles are required, yes. They make us empathetic, seasoned, and humane.
Yet, we are not made for rebounding all the time.
You are not supposed to be sleep deficient every day of the week, work like a donkey, and keep getting hurt.
Life must not to be an endless struggle.
There should be times to heal, to rejuvenate, to replenish. Time to apply the philosophy, “Life your life”, because this moment — your childhood, your youth, your thirtieth birthday — is never going to come back.
We are not made for rebounding all the time.
We have defiled what human life means.
It is so much more than work, for no one died wishing they had worked more.
»You are meant to FEEL!!!
Stoicism is the rage of this generation.
Marcus Aurelius was an insightful man indeed; some of the principles are misunderstood.
You are told not to feel (as if there is a switch in the human body to turn off). To detach. To “man up” and make that poker face, so that no force on earth can deter you.
Most of us consider ourselves the finest humans if we narrow our emotions to a mere scowl or smile.
I found it practical and amazing once.
How good would it be to not feel anything!
The truth is, most of the time, these emotions go nowhere. They keep getting stored inside, causing you pain and discomfort.
You are a human.
You’re meant to feel your emotions, be it love, shame, anger, or guilt, without shame or guilt!
A lot of us feel guilty for feeling guilty.
Or get angry at ourselves for getting angry at somebody else first.
This loop ruins your day.
You’re meant to feel your emotions, be it love, shame, anger, or guilt, without shame or guilt!
There are better ways to handle your emotions.
The best one is to let them sink in as they take their time. You’re not supposed to be happy when you’re sad. You’re not supposed to hold the anger in you — but to release it healthily.
The best thing I learned from therapy is that my emotion and empathy is not my weakness. The pinnacle of personal development is to embrace your emotions and be at peace with who you are instead of trying to cut it off and trying to be someone else.
It’s okay to cry and lean on others for support.
Rather than detesting how strongly you feel, own it.
Holding stuff inside you and letting it boil doesn’t have a pretty good result.
Let the water have its way.
To conclude: What do you think?
These are just my opinions; you may or may not agree. Coming across these ideas flipped my thinking and made me change my life in slight ways because of their potent nature.
My mindset isn’t perfect, and I am always ready to learn and improve.
I would love to hear ideas that have changed your mind as well!
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